The Rooms Framework
A new way to understand memory, identity, and becoming
We don’t just remember our moments.
We store them.
Inside each of us are rooms built from moments that mattered.
Some are bright and familiar.
Some were built in fear, silence, or survival.
Some we return to often.
Some we sealed shut and learned to live around.
The Rooms Framework is a way of understanding memory and identity not as a timeline, but as an inner house—one made of rooms we can revisit, witness, and re-choose.
This is not about reliving the past.
It is about meeting it with adult eyes and present power.
What is the Rooms Framework?
The Rooms Framework is the foundation of The Room to Be Brave.
It offers a simple but powerful idea:
our beliefs, reactions, and identities were often built in moments where we had limited choice. When we learn to return to those moments with awareness and compassion, we gain the ability to decide what still belongs.
Each room holds:
• what happened
• what it came to mean
• who we became to survive it
The work is not to demolish the house.
The work is to finally walk through it as the owner.
What this work offers:
A non-pathologizing way to understand behavior
A language for experiences people struggle to explain
A bridge between story, psychology, and growth
A framework that supports recovery, reinvention, and courage
A reminder that you are not broken—you are built
And anything built in a moment without choice can be revisited in a moment with choice.
Ways to work with the Rooms Framework
Through the book The Room to Be Brave
Live talks and keynote experiences
Guided journaling and reflection sessions
Workshops and women’s circles
Recovery and identity-based conversations
If the idea of your inner rooms resonates, you are already standing at a door.
